The controlling personality type is programmed to control, as a way of easing feelings of being worthless, vulnerable and unlovable. The anger of the person with a propensity for violence is aroused and maintained by thinking distortions, such as making assumptions about a partner without any supporting evidence. These distortions
Monthly Archives: July 2015
you must understand the controlling mind to counteract abuse
As well as being aware of the signs of an abusive relationship, it is helpful to understand the abusive personality and mindset. There are many theories about this, and much controversy about these theories, but those that I find convincing are brain formation and thinking patterns of abusive people. Over
The controlling person gets to know the mind of the intended victim.
Some of the behaviours mentioned in the last blog entry are, on their own, strong signals of an abusive mentality, and if a pattern emerges, you are certainly entering the danger zone of misery, humiliation and control, and possibly of violence. The fact that abuse in longstanding relationships is one
isolation is the way controllers treat their partners
Moving to live in a more isolated place is only one stratagem in abusers’ plans. Their jealousy and urge to control is so great that they also seek to isolate their partners from friends and family. Some victims, such as Linda, succumb to this devastating abuse for peace sake –