Monthly Archives: March 2017

you can be bonded to your abuser through trauma.

Each situation is different, but perhaps like many women you are financially dependent on your partner. It might be that you cannot afford to rent a house, and it is true that in many countries there may not be sufficient hostels or refuges for fleeing women and their children. The

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It is hard to leave a relationship even an abusive one, but it is necessary.

As a victim, you may harbour a whole range of fears based on your situation. You possibly fear the legal road you may have to take to disentangle the strands of your marriage. The system is adversarial and centred around the legal profession itself, rather than the clients. I have

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Remaining in or Leaving an Abusive Relationship

Remaining in or Leaving an Abusive Relationship Shackled forever? Never to leave the prison? Never to find the key? Never to breathe the air of freedom? Never to find self-expression? Never to be? Always lost? Always leashed? Always rejected? Never loved? Always caring for the unlovable? No escape from lash

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Sexually abused children suffer distress in adulthood.

As we have seen when looking at boundaries, adolescence is a time of intense sexual change, and these normal changes become entangled with the impact of sexual abuse. Instead of being seen as normal, they are now infused with the shame that sexual abuse engenders in the adolescent. Emotional reactions

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