Monthly Archives: October 2019

Fear of failure stems from an innate feeling of being defective, a childhood wound.

You can either learn fear of failure, or it becomes engendered in you through neglectful parenting. I believe that fear of failure comes from a core feeling of not being good enough, which is turn stems from a child’s feeling of being unloved, and perhaps being overtly or covertly criticised.

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Fear of failure is a core issue that inhibits our instinct for achieving.

Failure in the context of fear is not what it seems to those who are fortunate to have had a secure attachment to parents and, therefore, are blessed with high self-esteem. They see it as no more than negative circumstances from which they learn and move on. It is a

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Fear of failure

For the next few weeks I want to look at a fear many of us have- fear of failure. All the issues I write about in this blog stem from an insecure attachement during childhood. In other words, they are all attachment issues and result from a failure in parenting.

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You will never be happy if your partner has toxic or core jealousy. You will be imprisoned

The ‘Dutch Cow’ technique advocated by the psychologist Dr Ayala Pines is an unusual but effective way to challenge a jealous partner, who may be pestering you with texts. It would be especially effective if your partner has Adult Separation Anxiety. Using this technique, you call your partner very frequently

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The Love Languages of Gary Chapman. Can be used in the context of jealousy

There is a technique in couples counselling called the five love languages, which should be useful in helping to heal jealousy, but would not work with violent jealousy. The use of the love languages might slowly diminish and help to heal non-violent toxic jealousy, especially of those suffering from adult

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