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toxic or core jealousy is bred in childhood

There is some disagreement among researchers about the triggers that spark jealousy from a gender perspective. Some sociobiologists, such as David Buss, theorise that jealousy is about male anger at the likelihood of losing the prospect to procreate if a female partner threatens to leave, and in his opinion it

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Toxic jealousy is difficult to eradicate

Toxic Jealousy is complex and obsessional. Any obsession is consuming. When we are obsessed we cannot interact properly with others and we certainly cannot make any emotional connection with them. It stifles our creativity and our spirituality, kills our souls and fills us with paranoia and depressive thoughts. Obsessional thinking

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Jealousy affects all sexual orientations – heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual etc.

There is always a triadic relationship when jealousy arises, and it is evident in all gender orientations. I have, for example, come across intense toxic jealousy in homosexual relationships. In the Old Testament there is God, his people and rival gods. In Shakespearean drama you have Othello, his wife (Desdemona),

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Jealousy is a very painful wound from childhood

Toxic Jealousy Stemming from an insecure childhood attachment. In my experience toxic jealousy is one of the most painful wounds of childhood and is worth understanding. It is related to envy, but is not the same. Envy is a coveting of something another has, such as wealth, achievement, or fame,

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Shaming children leaves a lasting impact and gives them core shame which they bring into adult life

Shaming remarks made to children under twelve have a more drastic and permanent impact that can become core because, like parents, teachers spend a lot of time with them, and the frequency of these remarks is a key element in laying the crop of shame. A combination of parental and

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Shaming others is horrible and can be seen in many institutions including school

One of the hidden ingredients that foment anger in school is rarely mentioned – being shamed. Shame sometimes forms part of the anger jigsaw, and hierarchical institutions are breeding grounds for it. I have observed this poisonous ingredient as a teacher and Principal for over thirty years, and as a

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Teaching is a demanding profession

Professionals dealing with teenagers, in particular, are vulnerable to burn out from the impact of constant exposure to anger. Students may express this anger in different ways, such as avoidance of doing their tasks, procrastinating, being forgetful, being sarcastic, or, unfortunately, using abusive language. Some writers use the phrase projective

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School can be a pressure cooker of anger

Because of the huge numbers involved in many schools, the pressure cooker atmosphere from nine o’clock to four, and the dynamic of so many relationships, school is a place where anger can suddenly blow up and create very difficult situations. When I look back on my life as a school

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In Ireland we always addressed a married female teacher as ‘mam’

The adolescent life stage is a particularly difficult one for the human. That stage stretches from about thirteen to nineteen years, or even later. Early and mid-adolescence bring painful challenges. Teenagers in that stage are dealing with profound physical changes and emotional upheaval. Their emotional responses become more intense, heightened

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How to deal with an angry child

There are many quick decisions to take when you are faced with an angry child, but basically you should not retaliate inappropriately. Always remain in your adult shoes. It is not uncommon for adults to regress into their childhood shoes when dealing with certain situations, including dealing with an angry

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