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Dealing with anger in a practical way

Relaxation Techniques Since anger is an emotion charged with energy, relaxation techniques can help relieve the stress it causes you. Progressive muscle relaxation is particularly successful as an anger management tool. It is also one of the easiest to practise. It involves the tensing and relaxing of each of the

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It is always best to be assertive rather than aggressive

Understanding the Difference between Aggression and Assertiveness Before you learn how to properly communicate anger, it is worthwhile exploring the difference between aggression and assertiveness. Managing anger is about replacing aggression with assertiveness. Assertiveness is very different from aggression, and is part of healthy, protective anger. People who are assertive

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Delay the onset of anger so that you can get control over it

An Anger Contract Whenever you write stuff down it gives you a better opportunity to understand it, and an anger contract is a technique used by many counsellors to help those tormented by toxic anger. It is very compatible with keeping an anger journal. It gives clients a sense of

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Writing stuff down helps you make more sense of yourself

Anger Journal An anger journal is one of the most important ways to understand your anger and is an excellent anger management technique, because it gives you time to examine your thoughts with greater accuracy and to see your stress triggers. You can work out your own headings for the

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Cognitive restructuring is an effective tool for anger management

Cognitive Restructuring Cognitive restructuring is part of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and is helpful as an anger management tool. It is a technique where you learn to identify and dispute irrational or defective thoughts or distortions, such as all or nothing thinking and over-generalisations. It has long been understood that

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ANGER MANAMEMENT IS IMPORTANT BUT IT DOES NOT DEAL WITH THE ROOT CAUSES OF ANGER

Anger Management for Adults You are now aware of the nature and types of anger, and the destructive impact it can have on your health. This can be avoided if you learn how to manage it properly. Anger management is not about healing, but management and healing work in tandem

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Bitterness can take you over

In looking at anger and its ancillary feelings, you should distinguish between anger and bitterness. There are many differences between normal anger and bitterness. There are, however, many common characteristics between toxic anger and bitterness. They are both long lasting, although toxic anger lasts a lifetime, while you can let

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Impatience is self-defeating

Type A personalities also seem to share another unwanted trait – impatience, which is related to anger (and anxiety). Generally people are unaware of the latent hostility which drives impatience and the damage it does to their mental and probably physical health. Unfortunately, it was once one of my main

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toxic shame is utterly painful

Those who carry the burden of toxic anger and are driven by the controlling impulse are also inclined to have a poor view of their victims. As narcissists, they occupy a very high perch in their own eyes and tend to look down on others and therefore assume that others

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I don’t think anger is genetic.

Some people feel that anger is somehow genetic and point to anger in the wider family. The old saying ‘Like father like son’ may be true, but can be misinterpreted. An angry father may create an angry son, but the angry father will have been formed by an angry, neglectful

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