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Body image problems can be part of social fear (bred by attachment issues)

While social fear is a silent and invisible saboteur, albeit with obvious anxiety symptoms, the negative thinking that drives it is very often translated into obsession with body image. You are conscious about how you look, blame yourself for these so-called imperfections, and become distracted, while others are oblivious to

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Social fear is a constant destructive presence

Essentially, therefore, social fear is about oversensitivity of being judged, criticized or rejected by others; being acutely self-conscious and feeling embarrassed or humiliated. Barbara Markway, a psychologist in Jefferson City and an expert on social fear, makes the interesting point that people with social fear not only dread disapproval, but

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Social anxiety destroys your life

Jason was mistaken if he thought that his fear would depart when he began working. It intensified and destroyed any attempt at happiness. “I would do my work to a high standard but I would lunch by myself, in a place away from work where my colleagues wouldn’t see me.

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Social anxiety is crippling.

In my case study, Jason’s main issue was social fear coming from fear of abandonment and an insecure attachment to his father. It was his main presenting issue. His narrative shows how utterly disabling it can be, how it encourages avoidance, interferes with normal functioning and interferes with self-care. “By

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Generalised and specific social anxiety

John R. Marshall, Clinical Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at UCLA School of Medicine, is one of the pioneers in using medication to deal with social fear. In his book, Social Phobia. From Shyness to Stage Fright, he divides it into two categories, specific and generalised. Some people fear situations

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Social anxiety.

In my last blog I looked at using a diary to address our thoughts, feelings and behavours in relation to fear of failure and how my own fear of failure was preventing me from applying for a particular job. Yet despite my fears, I found fulfilment in my life as

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Keeping a fear and avoidance diary as a way of dealing with fear of failure

Today I am returning to my usual blog and hope you are all feeling relief and some form of freedom is returning to us to raise our spirits. There may be a negative aftermath to this, but some counselling will help erate that. I had been discussing fear of failure,

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Depression during covid 19 lockdown and aftermath

Depression is a very complex reality, but I will not look at it in all its complexity in such a short blog. Depression is a painful feeling of ongoing sadness, low mood, no motivation and no sense of joy or happiness. It is a sense of being in a dark

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Dealing with Anxiety during the lockdown

Anxiety as a factor of Loss during the Covid 19 emergency In the last blog I looked at anger as an element of loss during what is a global trauma. Some people may be reasonably contented at being locked down and feel that safety is the most important consideration at

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Home Directions Contact Jim O’Shea Counselling Call me on 087 8211 009 Home Approach Publications Blog Facilities Directions Contact . Dealing with loss during the Covid 19 epidemic. Anger as a feeling of loss Posted on April 27, 2020 by Jim Dealing with Loss Last week I looked at some

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