Physical Abuse I see the snarling ghost of anger Breathe his fiery breath into my fearful face. Fetid, I feel the hurt as angry hand Violates my precious self And cower as angry foot Inflicts its hurt. And tremble as savage eyes Penetrate my soul. How to keep the savage
Blog Archives
Physical abuse is the most recognisable of the different types of abuse
Posted in abuse, abusive personality, controlling personality, domestic violence, physical abuse
Tags: abuse, domestic violence, physical abuse
Tags: abuse, domestic violence, physical abuse
He flaunted his mistresses in public
Not only did Stephen bring his mistresses to the family home, he eventually flaunted them in public, causing Linda immense pain. It was a public symbol of abandonment, a flagrant sense of entitlement, and a sign of total irresponsibility as a husband and father. It filled her with confusion as
abusive people are often unfaithful
The abuser is needy, and, ironically, the charmer is more often than not a womaniser, who has many affairs. Linda’s husband was a serial adulterer, and did not hesitate to use the family home for some of his affairs. She became aware of his infidelity when he brought an ex-partner
The Seeds of abusiveness are sown in early childhood by emotional neglect
The abusive personality very often expresses itself in uncontrolled aggression, has a negative self-view, and is filled with envy and jealousy. The jealousy that he has is an irrational, morbid one fuelled by suspicion, and this is often the most frequently cited motive for spousal murders, and indeed for the
Controlling people have a low sense of self-worth
Despite the outpouring of rage and shame, all controlling people have a low sense of self-esteem and self-worth, and being in control brings a sense of safety. Controllers feel like victims, and may have been one, so sometimes they carry out the abuse as a way of retribution or revenge.
controlling people have low self-esteem and project their own negative traits onto their partners
Despite the outpouring of rage and shame, all controlling people have a low sense of self-esteem and self-worth, and being in control brings a sense of safety. controllers feel like victims, and may have been one, so sometimes they carry out the abuse as a way of retribution or revenge.
Forty five per cent of relationships are mutual abuse.
Female abusers seek aggressive male companions, and as adults, they tend to form relationships with abusive men and carry out mutual partner violence. Donald Dutton refers to this as bilateral abuse, and reveals that it is much more widespread than might be assumed. Studies show that it can be as
There are many types of abusive behaviour
The beliefs that partly underpin male abusive thinking can also be formed by social and legal influences that undermine respect for women. When I was young in the 1940s and 1950s, I learned that a woman’s place was in the home, at the kitchen sink, doing menial work. Housework and
The controlling person chooses his target which he sees as prey
The controlling personality type is programmed to control, as a way of easing feelings of being worthless, vulnerable and unlovable. The anger of the person with a propensity for violence is aroused and maintained by thinking distortions, such as making assumptions about a partner without any supporting evidence. These distortions
you must understand the controlling mind to counteract abuse
As well as being aware of the signs of an abusive relationship, it is helpful to understand the abusive personality and mindset. There are many theories about this, and much controversy about these theories, but those that I find convincing are brain formation and thinking patterns of abusive people. Over