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Bitterness can take you over

In looking at anger and its ancillary feelings, you should distinguish between anger and bitterness. There are many differences between normal anger and bitterness. There are, however, many common characteristics between toxic anger and bitterness. They are both long lasting, although toxic anger lasts a lifetime, while you can let

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toxic shame is utterly painful

Those who carry the burden of toxic anger and are driven by the controlling impulse are also inclined to have a poor view of their victims. As narcissists, they occupy a very high perch in their own eyes and tend to look down on others and therefore assume that others

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I don’t think anger is genetic.

Some people feel that anger is somehow genetic and point to anger in the wider family. The old saying ‘Like father like son’ may be true, but can be misinterpreted. An angry father may create an angry son, but the angry father will have been formed by an angry, neglectful

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Aggression can pass from generation to generation

It is easy to see that aggression is almost a way of living for some criminals in their mutual relationships. It is part of a subculture with the ‘strongest’ at the top of the hierarchy retaining control over others. Unfortunately, they must maintain their aggression to remain there and to

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Anger and aggression are not the same, but aggressive people have core anger

While normally quiet, well-adjusted, people can behave aggressively if sufficiently provoked, aggression can be expected from those with toxic anger. It is also part of domestic violence. In the criminal world aggression is used inspire fear. Even the elderly are not spared in violent burglaries and the results are seen

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Chronic (continuous and long standing) anger damages your physical as well as mental healh

It is easy to see that anger can degenerate into hatred. There is no satisfactory explanation of the difference between anger and hatred. Hatred is depicted as an intense, long lasting and overwhelming anger. Some researchers maintain that anger does not last as long as hatred, but chronic anger lasts

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Passive Aggressive Anger Wounds Others and Creates Anxiety in them

If those who are on the receiving end of passive aggression understand how it operates they can somehow distance themselves from the person who is causing them discomfort, perhaps even feel sadness for them, although this is not easily done. I find that some people who are subjected to passive

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Passive Aggressive Anger can by used by controlling employees to thwart a manager and vice versa.

Initially, I saw Jason’s passive aggression as assertiveness, which it was to some extent, so there may be an underlying connection between assertiveness and healthy passive aggression, although I think it is better, if possible, to openly state your anger. He also had the cushion of his decision to pursue

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passive aggressive anger can be useful at times.

Passive aggressive anger is often seen in the workplace, where work expectations and requirements are undermined on a regular basis. Sometimes it is reactive and healthy and sometimes ancient and toxic. An employee, boiling inside, may subtly thwart the efforts of co-workers, especially managers, to advance a company or an

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Passive Aggressive Anger

It is relatively rare for a person with implosive anger to become explosive, but if they do they can unleash torrents of anger for all the years they have swallowed their rage and turned it in on themselves. Some psychologists tend to label implosive anger as passive aggressive anger and

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