DIFFERENTIATING BETWEEN THE GENETIC AND THE ENVIRONMENTAL CAN BE DIFFICULT WHEN TRACING YOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL PATHOLOGIES. We should be aware that people often mistakenly use genetic or hereditary terms without realizing that these more often than not are about our environment i.e. our parenting, school environment, social environment. For example, you
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DIFFERENTIATING BETWEEN GENETIC AND ENVIRONMENTAL CAUSES OF OUR PSYCHOLOGICAL PATHOLOGIES CAN BE DIFFICULT. We should be aware that people often mistakenly use genetic or hereditary terms without realizing that these more often than not are about our environment i.e. our parenting, school environment, social environment. For example, you frequently hear
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The constant need for approval is crippling. It comes from parental lack of affection for the child
The need for approval is a deep and hurtful wound from childhood. I was driven by the need for approval. As a Principal, I needed approval from the students, the staff, the parents, the Board of Management, the Department of Education, the townspeople and the trustees! And my perfectionism was
The need for approval is a painful wound from childhood and prevents us being truly happy
In the last blog we have been looking at perfectionism. The subconscious desire to be good enough is a parallel, but connected, treadmill to perfectionism promoting fear of failure. It has many roots, and the behaviour is a never ending drive to please others. The greater your fear of failure
Perfectionism is often misunderstood.
There is an ironic component of incompetency that you also need to be aware of, which has been well addressed in the literature. Since this secret world harbours a deep sense of shame, it also brings the curse of pathological perfectionism. Research shows that a high level of perfectionism is
Toxic jealousy is difficult to eradicate
Toxic Jealousy is complex and obsessional. Any obsession is consuming. When we are obsessed we cannot interact properly with others and we certainly cannot make any emotional connection with them. It stifles our creativity and our spirituality, kills our souls and fills us with paranoia and depressive thoughts. Obsessional thinking
low self-esteem the core of fear of abandonment
From the previous blog you can see from what Nancy says that her core issue is low self-esteem. If she had high self-esteem she would not compare herself unfavourably with other women. She would feel good enough and they would not be a threat. You can see that she even
The three selves. The real self, the false self and the invented self.
Before examining fear in more detail it might be helpful to understand the difference between emotion and feeling, because this book is about feeling rather than emotion. From the primary emotions spring secondary feelings. For example, shame and embarrassment can come from sadness, and jealousy can come from anger or
Fear of Abandonment
Fear of Abandonment Toxic fear is a widespread reality and is a chronic condition that fills you with constant negativity, and, as Peg Hanafin writes in her book, Thoughts for your Journey, it is destructive and paralysing. Moreover, it is bad for your heart and blood pressure. Frequent fear pumps