Your own behaviours may also indicate that you are being abused. Do you feel muzzled or fearful of expressing your opinions to your partner? Do you feel emotionally unsafe, insecure, and vulnerable? Do you doubt your own judgments and capabilities? Are you afraid to speak to others about your relationship?
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You cannot please a verbal abuser
As they struggle in confusion, victims often form a false set of beliefs, such as believing that they might appease the abusers if they were better at articulating what they wished to say. Abusers reinforce these false beliefs by convincing them that they are incapable of understanding, and that if
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Tags: abuse, verbal abuse
Tags: abuse, verbal abuse
Don’t underestimate the damage verbal abuse does
The effects of verbal abuse are serious, and like all cases of abuse become more intense over time. Recovery from verbal abuse seems to take much longer than from physical abuse, because the core self is assaulted and wounded. It often happens that the victim becomes used to and adapts
Victims of verbal abuse are severely wounded and humiliated
Verbal abusers use all their verbal skill to confuse, control and disarm their victims. They are blatantly unfair, they rule out any opposing viewpoint, and they make the victim feel stupid. They distort the victim’s judgment and make them feel that there is something wrong with them. They make statements
Words can confuse, seem caring yet damage the self-esteem of another.
Education increases the facility abusers have with words. They have a rapier-like capacity to inflict verbal abuse, some of it extremely subtle. As Cathy Meyer says, not all words meant to hurt are ugly words. An ‘expert’ at verbal abuse can damage the self-esteem of another, and yet appear to
Many see verbal abuse as worse than physical
Verbal abuse is so tormenting because the facility to praise and express love is used to denigrate and insult. For example, Linda went from being a beautiful desirable wife to a ‘boring old hag’. The contrast is devastating, and the constant name-calling savage – “I was called things like a
Verbal Abuse
Verbal Abuse Nurtured in the furnace of shame, The abuse-foetus grows, Silent, Strong And lies in wait, Fed on the poison of rejection, Never good enough, Never loved enough, Unlovable, And then it stirs And Strikes, And paralyses. And leaves the eternal scar. Hidden. How it rings eternally in your
People need to know what boundaries are before they can understand abuse. This will be explored in the early section of the blog, and will enlighten parents on child formation. Parents will also learn about dysfunctional child development in the next section, which looks at the creation of the abusive