The euphemistically titled date rape is also a common experience. Date rape, also called acquaintance rape, is perpetrated not just by dating partners but also by acquaintances, friends, or co-workers. Some perpetrators spike the victim’s drink with drugs like Rohypnol, Gamma Hydroxy Butyrate, or Ketamine Hydrochloride that act quickly and
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Sexual abuse is not just about rape
Many people think that the only type of sexual abuse is rape. But, it is far more complex, and includes any form of non-consensual sexual contact or non-touching sexual behaviour. It also encompasses unwanted sexual language or exploitative behaviour. It includes rape, molestation, sexual assault, and any sexual behaviour with
victims of emotional abuse are isolated and humiliated even in front of the children
Emotional abusers are expert in undermining partners in the presence of their children. The victim’s authority as a parent is eroded by belittling comments, and she may be blamed for problems with the children, including their behaviour, poor school performance, or even physical defects. In such cases, the children are
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Emotional abusers can be subtle in how they control you
One of my friends, who lived in a remote area, suffered an insidious form of emotional abuse when her abuser was rarely home early, because he worked such long hours. This is a particularly effective and disempowering form of emotional abuse, if the victim is a mother without a babysitter
Many see verbal abuse as worse than physical
Verbal abuse is so tormenting because the facility to praise and express love is used to denigrate and insult. For example, Linda went from being a beautiful desirable wife to a ‘boring old hag’. The contrast is devastating, and the constant name-calling savage – “I was called things like a
PHYSICAL ABUSE LEAVES MANY SCARS
Physical abuse of men by women is also grossly underreported. Women are 10 times more likely to call the police than men. Interestingly, the main reason men do not report abuse is to protect their partners. Furthermore, they rightly feel that health professionals and police are less likely to believe
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The abusive personality neutralises feelings of guilt.
Thankfully, elder abuse is generally no longer occurring under the radar, although another common type of physical abuse is rarely mentioned. It is the abuse and intimidation of entire families in a social setting. ‘Neighbours from hell’ are master abusers, and intimidate, for example, by pulling shrubs, invading property, kicking
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He flaunted his mistresses in public
Not only did Stephen bring his mistresses to the family home, he eventually flaunted them in public, causing Linda immense pain. It was a public symbol of abandonment, a flagrant sense of entitlement, and a sign of total irresponsibility as a husband and father. It filled her with confusion as
abusive people are often unfaithful
The abuser is needy, and, ironically, the charmer is more often than not a womaniser, who has many affairs. Linda’s husband was a serial adulterer, and did not hesitate to use the family home for some of his affairs. She became aware of his infidelity when he brought an ex-partner
The Seeds of abusiveness are sown in early childhood by emotional neglect
The abusive personality very often expresses itself in uncontrolled aggression, has a negative self-view, and is filled with envy and jealousy. The jealousy that he has is an irrational, morbid one fuelled by suspicion, and this is often the most frequently cited motive for spousal murders, and indeed for the