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Depression during covid 19 lockdown and aftermath

Depression is a very complex reality, but I will not look at it in all its complexity in such a short blog. Depression is a painful feeling of ongoing sadness, low mood, no motivation and no sense of joy or happiness. It is a sense of being in a dark

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Dealing with Anxiety during the lockdown

Anxiety as a factor of Loss during the Covid 19 emergency In the last blog I looked at anger as an element of loss during what is a global trauma. Some people may be reasonably contented at being locked down and feel that safety is the most important consideration at

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Home Directions Contact Jim O’Shea Counselling Call me on 087 8211 009 Home Approach Publications Blog Facilities Directions Contact . Dealing with loss during the Covid 19 epidemic. Anger as a feeling of loss Posted on April 27, 2020 by Jim Dealing with Loss Last week I looked at some

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Dealing with loss during the Covid 19 epidemic. Anger as a feeling of loss

Dealing with Loss Last week I looked at some of the characteristics of loss, which are shock, denial, disbelief, sadness, depression, anger and anxiety and fear. First of all we all deal differently with loss, because while we may have experienced a similar loss, we grieve differently. We are affected

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Being in Lockdown or partial lockdown during the corona virus epidemic

Today I am departing from my usual blog to say that I am thinking of all my readers, who are experiencing the impact of being locked down. My wife and I are in our seventies and are in total lockdown. Counselling is part of essential services so I see some

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Your gut is your most important asset. Learn to be in contact with it.

In the last blog we were looking at the different types of intelligence we have. We may be strong in some areas and not so strong in others. I mentioned that emotional intelligence (the capacity to connect emotionally to another) was the most important. After all you would prefer to

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There are nine types of intelligence and we all have our own unique creativity

Before I begin this blog, I would like to send my best wishes to all those people, who read it every week. I am very conscious of the awful plague that has us locked down and how stressful this is for many people. My prayer is that all of you

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Our self-esteem must come from our qualities not our achievements

The word locus seems to be liked by psychologists. Carl Rogers uses the term an external locus of self-evaluation, which means that your self-esteem is based on external factors such as your work, wealth or some other factor that you value. Without question, those who have an external locus of

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We must feel in control of our lives and it must be based on our intrinsic qualities not on external factors which can vanish

I do not advise self-help books, but you can get many useful books which will help you make sense of your life. A book you might like to read to help heal your perfectionistic tendencies is The Green Platform. This was written by Declan Coyle, who was fortunate enough to

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Perfectionism can lead to other psychological complaints.

Since perfectionism is bred from an insecure attachment it will be accompanied by other issues outlined as follows – Fear of abandonment – fear of failure – social fear – toxic jealousy – envy – toxic anger/rage – depression – anxiety – panic attacks – controlling impulse – internal unease

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