Be aware of the type of anger you have

Anger can also be categorised as explosive or implosive and someone who is constantly angry without good reason, carries the burden of toxic anger. Explosive anger is a violent outburst and can also vary in intensity, ranging from mild annoyance to a very strong feeling of rage, where it is expressed by shouting, banging things, throwing objects, sulking, glaring, gritting the teeth, shaking the head, waving fists, looking away, making sour comments and hitting or punching some unfortunate person. If you are chronically angry you should realise that it not only damages other people, but is destructive to yourself. Silent or implosive anger is as destructive, if not more so, than the explosive type. One is like a bomb blowing up around you, and the other is like a bomb blowing up inside you. Implosive anger is never digested and burns on.
Why, you might ask, do people keep a lid on their anger and keep it hidden? Partly because they have a fear of offending others, partly because they want to be liked and partly because their self-esteem is low. There is evidence of the damage done by suppressing anger in the context of employees, who have to stifle anger rather than confront customers, whereby their company would lose business. Research on types of work where showing anger would lose custom is very insightful. A study of flight attendants brought up some interesting results. This was carried out by David Kemper a specialist in human emotions. Flight attendants have no option but to remain calm and suppress any anger or irritations when confronted by the offensive behaviour of some passengers. The study showed that the attendants reported feeling numb and came to have considerable emotional problems. We can assume that the same happens to others, who have to please the public or their customers. The basic lesson is that suppressing our anger leads to mental and physical health issues. The problem is made greater if their anger is toxic.
Extract from Understanding and Healing the Hurts of Childhood. Publication 2018
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