Certain segments of the population are more vulnerable to sexual abuse. These include prisoners (male and female), homeless women, disabled women, elderly women, and female sex workers (prostitutes). Prisoners are in a powerless situation, and are often preyed upon by those in power. Many have suffered sexual abuse prior to
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sexual controllers are not interested in the needs of their victims
The abuser’s sexual and power needs, as he envisages them, are all important, and the needs of the victim are sidelined. Sometimes victims are forced to watch pornography as a pretext for learning sexual practices to satisfy the abusers’ ‘needs’. Abusers sometimes force victims to become involved in pornographic videos
Sexual abuse is not just about rape
Many people think that the only type of sexual abuse is rape. But, it is far more complex, and includes any form of non-consensual sexual contact or non-touching sexual behaviour. It also encompasses unwanted sexual language or exploitative behaviour. It includes rape, molestation, sexual assault, and any sexual behaviour with
Sometimes victims do not realise that they are being abused or controlled
Another minority group vulnerable to emotional abuse is people who suffer from disabilities. For example, the refusal of admittance of a physically disabled student to college, because of inadequate facilities, might be seen as emotional abuse. The victim feels powerless against the institution. Breda Gleeson writes of a case where
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God is not a punitive father.
More than anything else, I believe that it is emotionally abusive to portray God as a punitive father. Fear is one of the hallmarks of abuse, and negative and forceful preaching that arouses fear in a congregation is spiritual abuse. I think it is also emotionally abusive to ridicule a
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victims of emotional abuse are isolated and humiliated even in front of the children
Emotional abusers are expert in undermining partners in the presence of their children. The victim’s authority as a parent is eroded by belittling comments, and she may be blamed for problems with the children, including their behaviour, poor school performance, or even physical defects. In such cases, the children are
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Emotional abusers can be subtle in how they control you
One of my friends, who lived in a remote area, suffered an insidious form of emotional abuse when her abuser was rarely home early, because he worked such long hours. This is a particularly effective and disempowering form of emotional abuse, if the victim is a mother without a babysitter
The emotional controller is moody and sulky
Emotional/Psychological abuse She grew close to him And felt the warmth of his love Enveloping her in its gentle embrace. She did not feel the chill That sometime came And brushed against the edges of her soul. Looking with sightless eye, He did not see The cut inflicted on her
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You cannot please a verbal abuser
As they struggle in confusion, victims often form a false set of beliefs, such as believing that they might appease the abusers if they were better at articulating what they wished to say. Abusers reinforce these false beliefs by convincing them that they are incapable of understanding, and that if
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PHYSICAL ABUSE LEAVES MANY SCARS
Physical abuse of men by women is also grossly underreported. Women are 10 times more likely to call the police than men. Interestingly, the main reason men do not report abuse is to protect their partners. Furthermore, they rightly feel that health professionals and police are less likely to believe
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