Physical Abuse I see the snarling ghost of anger Breathe his fiery breath into my fearful face. Fetid, I feel the hurt as angry hand Violates my precious self And cower as angry foot Inflicts its hurt. And tremble as savage eyes Penetrate my soul. How to keep the savage
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Physical abuse is the most recognisable of the different types of abuse
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Tags: abuse, domestic violence, physical abuse
Tags: abuse, domestic violence, physical abuse
He flaunted his mistresses in public
Not only did Stephen bring his mistresses to the family home, he eventually flaunted them in public, causing Linda immense pain. It was a public symbol of abandonment, a flagrant sense of entitlement, and a sign of total irresponsibility as a husband and father. It filled her with confusion as
The Seeds of abusiveness are sown in early childhood by emotional neglect
The abusive personality very often expresses itself in uncontrolled aggression, has a negative self-view, and is filled with envy and jealousy. The jealousy that he has is an irrational, morbid one fuelled by suspicion, and this is often the most frequently cited motive for spousal murders, and indeed for the
Forty five per cent of relationships are mutual abuse.
Female abusers seek aggressive male companions, and as adults, they tend to form relationships with abusive men and carry out mutual partner violence. Donald Dutton refers to this as bilateral abuse, and reveals that it is much more widespread than might be assumed. Studies show that it can be as
There are many types of abusive behaviour
The beliefs that partly underpin male abusive thinking can also be formed by social and legal influences that undermine respect for women. When I was young in the 1940s and 1950s, I learned that a woman’s place was in the home, at the kitchen sink, doing menial work. Housework and
YOU WILL ALWAYS BE RESTRICTED BY THE CONTROLLING PERSON
Your living and breathing space will become confined to the whim of the abuser. Jealousy and suspicion of where you go, and whom you meet, are other warnings of the restrictions that await you, if you persist in this new relationship. There will be hints that may alert you that
possessiveness is not love. it is power and control
Linda’s pain intensified when their baby, Jack, was born, because not only did Stephen renege on his promises to be an involved father, but also he effectively abandoned his young wife and newborn baby, in favour of going out with his friends, and behaving irresponsibly – “I used to say
The abusive person charms and then destroys.
The characteristics and behaviours of the Jekyll and Hyde personality are well illustrated by Stephen, who demanded an early commitment from Linda. He swept her off her feet with his charm, quickly married and then cruelly abandoned her. It is a shocking experience to be loved so warmly, and then
controllers have a Jekyll and Hyde personality. They are street angels and house devils.
If your self-esteem is low, if you have brought feelings of abandonment from childhood, and if you feel not good enough, that person’s initial attention will make you feel wanted, flattered and fortunate. It is easy to be disarmed in those early stages by charm. Controlling people often try to
BEING AWARE OF WARNING SIGNS AT THE BEGINNING OF A RELATIONSHIP IS IMPORTANT
The controlling personality I grew close to you, And felt the caress of your love Enfolding me in its warm embrace. The wound in my soul soothed By the gentleness of your voice. I did not feel the chill that sometimes came And went as quickly. And then persisted And