unhealthy shame

Parents who suffer shame, spew it onto their children. They find it difficult to release their children and hold them for as long as possible. These Children lose their identity and imbibe their parents sense of core shame. these parents decide in all cases what is right and what is wrong, and stifle the child’s ability to make such decisions. it is like brainwashing. such parents are angry and raging and they blame the child for this. they feed their needs off the child, and behave in a childish fashion. they are autocratic  nagative in their behaviour, and subjugate the child’s will to their own, at  a very early stage in the child’s life. to look at toxic parents I recommend 2 books by Alice Miller, For Your Own Good, and the Drama of Being a Child.