Toxic shame is always part of social anxiety.

In the case of social fear the depression and anxiety are often accompanied by toxic shame, which is very often the basis of this condition. Some researchers, however, also theorize that social fear is a social issue rather than a personal one. That is true insofar as people with social fear often feel embarrassed or shamed because they feel they do not fit in. They feel on the margin, but the shame makes it personal. Shame often brings anger, and many people with social fear carry toxic anger and negative fantasizing. They are not paranoid in the psychological sense, but in a minority of cases indulge in violent fantasies about hurting or insulting others, a condition that also occurs in OCD. If they feel judged they in turn judge others and many are conflicted or confused. Their internal conflict with others is often accompanied by external meekness, although they feel cold, detached and suspicious.

Extract from my book – Understanding and Healing the Hurts of Childhood.
THERAPISTS IN TIPPERARY
PSYCHOTHERAPISTS IN TIPPERARY
COUNSELLING TIPPERARY
DEATH OF A CHILD
ABUSE AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
FEAR
ANGER
JEALOUSY
SHAME
I am the author of six books
When a Child Dies. Footsteps of a Grieving Family
Abuse. Domestic Violence, Workplace and School Bullying
Understanding and Healing the Hurts of Childhood.
I’ll Meet You at the Roundy O
Priest, Politics and Society in Post Famine Ireland 1850-1891
Prince of Swindlers. John Sadleir MP 1813-1856
I am currently writing a major work on DID (Multiple Personality Disorder)

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