Moving to live in a more isolated place is only one stratagem in abusers’ plans. Their jealousy and urge to control is so great that they also seek to isolate their partners from friends and family. Some victims, such as Linda, succumb to this devastating abuse for peace sake –
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YOU WILL ALWAYS BE RESTRICTED BY THE CONTROLLING PERSON
Your living and breathing space will become confined to the whim of the abuser. Jealousy and suspicion of where you go, and whom you meet, are other warnings of the restrictions that await you, if you persist in this new relationship. There will be hints that may alert you that
The abusive person charms and then destroys.
The characteristics and behaviours of the Jekyll and Hyde personality are well illustrated by Stephen, who demanded an early commitment from Linda. He swept her off her feet with his charm, quickly married and then cruelly abandoned her. It is a shocking experience to be loved so warmly, and then
controllers have a Jekyll and Hyde personality. They are street angels and house devils.
If your self-esteem is low, if you have brought feelings of abandonment from childhood, and if you feel not good enough, that person’s initial attention will make you feel wanted, flattered and fortunate. It is easy to be disarmed in those early stages by charm. Controlling people often try to