Gillian Butler correctly sums up the components of social fear as thinking and behaviour, with physical and emotional symptoms. Thinking symptoms include consciousness of other people’s opinion of you, lack of concentration, focusing on yourself and worrying about what might go wrong. Behavioural symptoms might be avoiding social occasions, mumbling, looking away from a person while speaking to them, and trying to avoid attention. The problem with these symptoms is that they more than likely will be misinterpreted by others as unfriendliness and people do not respond warmly to an unfriendly person. This then reinforces your belief that you are disliked, or worse still not worth liking, and a vicious circle is created, whereby you withdraw more and more. But, as mentioned elsewhere you can change your behaviours. You have control over them. Physiological symptoms have already been outlined and some of the emotional symptoms include apprehension, anger, sadness, helplessness and depression. These are seen, also, in Jason’s narrative. All of these make up an unpleasant assortment in the recipe for fear.
Extract from my book – Understanding and Healing the Hurts of Childhood.
THERAPISTS IN TIPPERARY
PSYCHOTHERAPISTS IN TIPPERARY
COUNSELLING TIPPERARY
DEATH OF A CHILD
ABUSE AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
FEAR
ANGER
JEALOUSY
SHAME
I am the author of six books
When a Child Dies. Footsteps of a Grieving Family
Abuse. Domestic Violence, Workplace and School Bullying
Understanding and Healing the Hurts of Childhood.
I’ll Meet You at the Roundy O
Priest, Politics and Society in Post Famine Ireland 1850-1891
Prince of Swindlers. John Sadleir MP 1813-1856
I am currently writing a major work on DID (Multiple Personality Disorder)